Video Don't Date When You’re Jobless" — Pastor Bolaji Idowu Warns Against Hunger-Induced Love

Pastor Bolaji Idowu has stirred conversations online following a sermon where he advised against entering romantic relationships without financial stability. The message, now viral on X (formerly Twitter), calls out the “hunger-induced” relationships that form not out of love, but out of lack.

“Don’t date when you are jobless,” Idowu declared.

He explained that unemployment narrows choices, often causing individuals to pursue relationships they wouldn’t consider under better financial circumstances.

“There are some relationships that are attractive not because they are attractive, it’s because you have no money,” he said.
“When you have your own money, you will be surprised how you should have not fallen in love with some people.”

Idowu went further to describe this behavior as “crumbs mentality”, a mindset where people settle for less simply because they’re desperate or lacking.

“Never negotiate on a hungry stomach — you will get a bad deal.”

“One of the signs of crumbs mentality is that you settle for less so easily.”

He urged listeners to shift their thinking from scarcity to abundance, criticizing people whose life goals are limited by their immediate needs.

“How can traveling to America be a goal?” he asked, challenging his audience to aim higher.

The message has since sparked debate online, with some agreeing wholeheartedly and others raising concerns about emotional support during hard times. Regardless, Idowu’s words are a wake-up call for those making life-altering choices under pressure.

Pastor Bolaji Idowu, lead preacher at Harvesters International Christian Centre, has sparked a social media conversation with a bold message: avoid romantic relationships while unemployed. visit https://t.co/XKh4phSMNF pic.twitter.com/te4Zf1nfPi — GistTrend (@gisttrend1) May 16, 2025